Q: When is a couple's massage bad?

A: When you're rubbing each other the wrong way.


I thought this was a cute play on words, but Nash and I have really been rubbing each other the wrong way lately.

Our communication has been ... abysmal.  Yup, I think that describes it quite well.  We don't seem to be on the same page ... heck, I don't think we're even in the same book.

I imagine there are several factors playing into this, but I don't have a clue what to do about it.

Blah.

How are things going with you and your significant other?  Are we the only ones struggling right now?

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  1. No Lilli, you are not alone. I just put up a post about when poor communication leads to trouble. We are back on the road, but the detour was troubling. I hate when we feel far away from each other.

    Hugs From Ella

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    1. Thanks for letting me know we're not alone, Ella! I'm sorry you've gone through something similar recently as well. I'll have to stop by and read your post. I just haven't had the time or emotional energy to keep up with everyone (or anyone really) lately. Sorry about that! I'm glad things are getting better for you guys now. (((hugs)))

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  2. Aww I'm sad to hear this Lilli but it will sort itself out. Anyway you can text him or write him something? I find I can talk better to my Sir through text
    Sending big hugs!

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    1. Thanks Daisy! We're sorting it out. It will just take a little time. (((hugs)))

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  3. Good luck, Lilli...sending lots of positive thoughts that you and Nash get on the same page soon.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Thanks Cat! Things are slowly improving now that we've acknowledged there's a problem and are facing it head on. (((hugs)))

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  4. Hi Lilli, I'm sorry to hear you and Nash aren't on the same page, I think it happens to us all at times for various reasons. Hope it improves soon.

    ((hugs))
    Roz

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    1. Thanks Roz! Yes, I think you're right that it happens to all of us sometimes. Things are starting to improve, baby steps and all. (((hugs)))

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  5. Hi Lilli. just a phase sweetie, keep on plodding on, these things shall pass,
    much love Jan, xx

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    1. Thanks Jan! We continue to plod on and things are slowly improving. (((hugs)))

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  6. We have been there. No pressure, but I hope you find a way to solve this solution ( perhaps writing TO each other ) before it turns into a longer/bigger problem! Good luck!

    willie

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    1. Thanks Willie! Heading it off is definitely something we're working on ... never want to let such things gather too much steam. (((hugs)))

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  7. Hi Lilli -
    What I've learned is that communication is key to any good relationship and when you don't know the cause of miscommunication, acknowledgement of that fact without knowing why is a step in the right direction. So acknowledge it to him and let him know you want to fix it.
    Best,
    Enzo

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    1. Thank you Enzo! You were right, first we needed to be clear with one another and acknowledge what was going on so that we could start improving things. Baby steps in the right direction currently, which is a good thing of course! (((hugs)))

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  8. Lilli..just stopped by and saw this and so completely understand where you are at. We are struggling here too.
    Communication is so hard especially when you both are not on the same page. Hoping things will improve for you two very soon.

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    1. Oh Annabelle, I'm sorry that you're struggling too. Things have started to get better for us and I hope they have for you as well. (((hugs)))

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  9. Hi Lilli, :)
    I'm so sorry that you are going through some times of not being on the same page with Nash at the moment. I hope that things turn around for you both really soon.

    You got some great suggestions above! I love what Enzo said, and it is something that Rob and I try to do without fail- even when we don't know what is going on in our heads in that moment. As Enzo suggested, coming together just to talk about the fact that you feel distance is an important start. I fear distance, and will do anything I can to try not let that happen to us. Distance can take on a life of its own. Wishing you a swift and loving return to the same page. Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie! Well, this post was from January, and yes, things are better on the communication front, thankfully. ;)

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