Sunday, February 12, 2017

Daddy-isms

Just a quick note to say hello!  I hope you're well!  We happen to be having a blizzard.  Not so thrilled about it really, but that hasn't stopped mother nature.

I thought I'd share a couple of Daddy-isms ... that is, things that Daddy's say ... at least Nash does ... in fact, these two things I'll share, he said to me today.

First is the term "applied influence" ... in case you're unsure, he was referring to spanking.

The second was "a naughty tender seat for naughty tendencies" ... again, of course, referring to spanking.

I will say that some babygirls tend to be quite mischievous and naughty at times.  I mean, that's what I've been told anyway.

Daddy has definitely been showing more dominance lately ... which, as far as I'm concerned, is a good thing.  We went for a bit without much D/s.  It happens ... things ebb and flow over time.  But, it had seemed like we were in a slump.  There were reasons ... you know ... life.  I'm happy to say that things are getting back to normal though.  Our dynamic hadn't disappeared, it was just hibernating for a bit.

Speaking of hibernating, have I mentioned that we're having a blizzard?  *sigh* 

Anyway, I also want to wish everyone a very Happy Valentine's Day!!!

xoxoxo

Saturday, February 4, 2017

1st Meme of 2017

 

I saw this meme on Facebook and thought it would be a fun one to do here. 

Please feel free to play along either in the comments or in your own blog post.  I'll put the questions without answers at the end of this post if you'd like to copy & paste.  ;)

Who's oldest?
He is!  By less than 2 months, but still, he's older (which is fun to tease him about when he's a "whole year" older or especially when he has moved into the next decade ahead of me, hehehe).

Who was interested first?
He was.  Well, we were friends first, but he was the one who made it known that he was interested in more.  I wasn't at first.  We stayed just friends, becoming very good friends, and he continued to pursue me.  Eventually he won my heart and has had it ever since.

Same High school?
Yup.

Most sensitive?
Me.  Oh, most definitely me.  It's not that he's not sensitive, but I'm so much more so that this isn't even close.

Worst temper?
Hmmm ... him?  Me?  I'm not sure how to answer.  We're quite different in this area.  Generally speaking it takes a lot for him to lose his temper.  That said, when he does lose his temper it can be a very abrupt change.  And he usually gets over it and moves on quickly as well.  Where as with me, things tend to gradually build, rather than explode and it takes me longer to chill out too.  There are exceptions to this of course, but this is how it is with each of us most often.

More social?
Overall, I'd say him.  He's ready, willing, and able to enjoy socializing just about anytime.  While I can also be a very social creature sometimes and definitely do enjoy the company of others, I also enjoy time to myself and just with our little family.  He does too, but he's more of an extrovert (getting energized by socializing) where as I'm more of an introvert (being worn out by socializing).

Most stubborn?
We can both be very stubborn.  And I do mean VERY stubborn.  And so, I really think it depends on the instance or situation at hand ... the importance and/or how emotionally charged the issue is for each of us, etc.  Though we can both be quite stubborn, I'll give the most stubborn title to him.  Isn't that generous of me?  ;)  I'm pretty sure when it comes right down to it, he can out-stubborn me more often than I can out-stubborn him.

Wakes up first?
Him.  He gets up crazy early for work.  If I was up at that hour it would be much more likely that it was because I hadn't gone to bed yet than because I was just getting up.

Bigger Family?
Me?  Him?  Well, we both have pretty good sized families really.  This one might be a tie.

Flowers? 
Yes, please! :)

Who cooks the most?
He does, thankfully!  I am not a cook.  That's not to say that I don't cook, but it's not something I enjoy and I don't cook many different things.  He, however, is an excellent cook and loves doing it.

Cries more?
Me.  No question.  Yup.  That would definitely be me.

Said I love you first?
He did.  I think.  Yeah, I'm pretty sure it was him.  It was quite a long time ago now, but I felt the same way.

Better singer?
Me.  Definitely me.  lol  He'll freely admit that he can't carry a tune.  He does a decent job of picking out harmonies though, just not necessarily the actual melody of a song.  Sometimes he'll have a song stuck in his head and he can't figure out what it is or who sings it and he'll try to sing it to me and I'm sure I must have the most confused look on my face.  Many times I do figure it out, but not always.  ;)

Better driver?
Oh dear ... I'm sure that he would say that it's no contest, that he's a better driver.  And, I suppose, I would give that to him.  However, that's not to say that I'm not a good driver, because I am.  And, though he'd be loathe to admit it, I think he'd say the same.  Now, if you asked who was the better passenger, that would definitely be me.  He can't stand to ride with anyone.  He'd much rather be driving.

Hogs the remote?
You'd think this would be him.  I mean, stereotypically speaking it would be him, right?  However, this is me.  I don't watch much tv these days, but when I do that remote is mine, mine, mine, all mine.  lol  Okay, while I do tend to be the remote hog, I do consult with others and generally we come to a consensus regarding what we're going to watch.  So there is that.  ;)

Better cook?
I think we went over this already.  It's him.  Definitely him.  I'm a good taste tester and I bake more than he does.  But, he knows what he's doing in the kitchen (and in other rooms, but that wasn't the question, lol).

Clothes And Shoe Hoarder?  
Neither of us really, but if I had to choose one of us, it would be me.  But, I don't really hoard clothes or shoes.  In fact, I could really use some new stuff.  I just haven't made the time to go shopping.  Speaking of shopping, I could really use a new purse.  Now, those I just might hoard.  ;)

Oh!  That's it!  No more questions!  Well, I hope you were amused.  I thought this was a fun one to do and I hope others decide to participate too.  The questions (without answers) are below for you to copy and paste into a comment or a blog post of your own.  I look forward to reading your answers!  :)


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Who's oldest?
Who was interested first?
Same High school?
Most sensitive?
Worst temper?
More social?
Most stubborn?
Wakes up first?
Bigger Family?
Flowers?
Who cooks the most?
Cries more?
Said I love you first?
Better singer?
Better driver?
Hogs the remote?
Better cook?
Clothes And Shoe Hoarder? 


Friday, January 13, 2017

Still The One

Some of you have reached out to me to check and see how Nash and I are doing.  Thank you!  I'm sorry if I haven't gotten back to you yet.  Things have been busy and I just really didn't feel like talking.  But, I want you to know that I've so appreciated the comments and/or emails!

Things are slowly improving.  The friction between us is out in the open and we're addressing it.  The reality is that the last couple of years have been stressful, both our plates have been full and our cups overflowing, and we're just plain emotionally and physically drained.  While there are and have been good things going on amidst some turmoil, I really can't remember the last time we got to stop and take a breath, the last time we got any real down time or had a break.  And I don't see a break coming anytime soon either.  In fact, for me at least, things ramp up soon as I'll be starting a new job, working more hours and further away from home.  Don't get me wrong, I'm excited about this opportunity, but there are certainly downsides as well.  My hope is that I'll be bringing in enough more income to help us get back on our feet financially which would eliminate some of the stress.

By now maybe you're wondering about the title of this post.  Well, neither Nash or I are really country music fans, but the song You're Still the One by Shania Twain has always been a special one.  And I'm going to talk directly to my hubby now, if you don't mind ...

Nash, no matter what we go through, you're still the one and you always will be.  I love you my darling, so very much.  I can't imagine my life without you.  You're my other half.  When you hurt, I hurt.  When you're happy, I'm happy.  Thank you for being you ... yes, even when I find you infuriating (don't worry, I know I infuriate you sometimes too, lol).  There will always be times in our lives when things just aren't easy, for whatever reason, that's just how life goes sometimes.  But, I wouldn't want anyone else by my side through all the ups and downs this life brings.  I wish I had the words to truly convey my feelings, but I hope, deep down, you already know anyway.  I love you so very, very much!
 

 

You're Still the One
by Shania Twain

Looks like we made it
Look how far we've come my baby
We mighta took the long way
We knew we'd get there someday 

They said, "I bet they'll never make it"
But just look at us holding on
We're still together still going strong 

You're still the one I run to
The one that I belong to
You're still the one I want for life
(You're still the one)
You're still the one that I love
The only one I dream of
You're still the one I kiss good night 

Ain't nothin' better
We beat the odds together
I'm glad we didn't listen
Look at what we would be missin' 

They said, "I bet they'll never make it"
But just look at us holding on
We're still together still going strong 

You're still the one I run to
The one that I belong to
You're still the one I want for life
(You're still the one)
You're still the one that I love
The only one I dream of
You're still the one I kiss good night 

You're still the one I run to
The one that I belong to
You're still the one I want for life
(You're still the one)
You're still the one that I love
The only one I dream of
You're still the one I kiss good night

Monday, January 9, 2017

Q: When is a couple's massage bad?

A: When you're rubbing each other the wrong way.


I thought this was a cute play on words, but Nash and I have really been rubbing each other the wrong way lately.

Our communication has been ... abysmal.  Yup, I think that describes it quite well.  We don't seem to be on the same page ... heck, I don't think we're even in the same book.

I imagine there are several factors playing into this, but I don't have a clue what to do about it.

Blah.

How are things going with you and your significant other?  Are we the only ones struggling right now?

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Reflections & Moving Forward

2016 was a year of recovery and a year of change for our family.

2015 had largely been ... terrifying.  It was a year of crisis.  It's not that there weren't good things that happened in 2015, but those things were overshadowed. I firmly believe that God carried us through that time because I know we didn't survive due to our own strength.  And though we did deal with some scary stuff last year as well, thankfully 2016 was much more about recovery than crisis.

2016 was a year of change for us.  Nash's job changed (after over a decade with his previous employer).  I went back to work (after being out of the workforce for over 15 years).  Our son went back to public school for high school (after being homeschooled most of his life).  And our daughter changed course in her life too, deciding on a different major at a different college.

Another big change last year was where we attend church.  Now, that may not seem like a big change to some, but it was for us.  We had attended the same church for over a decade.  We have formed many friendships there over the years.  We think of our church as a family, not just a place we attend a worship service, etc.  While we've still been occasionally visiting our previous church home, I think we've found a new church home.  
And that was 2016 in a nutshell ... the short hand version anyway.  lol

What will 2017 bring I wonder.

It seems that more change is on the way as I just accepted a job offer and will be starting a new job soon (thanks for the encouragement & prayers!).  I'm excited and nervous and excited and nervous and excited and nervous and, well, you get the idea.  lol  I had a lot to learn when I started the job I'm at now, and I've definitely felt in over my head at times, especially at first.  So, now that I'm much more comfortable there, I'll start something new and likely feel in over my head all over again.  lol  And while I will miss some things about my current job, I think this will be a good move really.

So, new year's resolutions ... well, ...


... this cracked me up and I just had to share.

I don't have any resolutions per se.  Are there things I've been working on, areas that I want to improve in that I intend to keep working on?  Sure!  But I've decided that lists are stupid.  lol  (kidding, not kidding)

How about this for a new year's resolution ...


Yup.  That works for me.  Strive to be better & do better at all the positive stuff and strive to kick all the negative stuff to the curb.  And give myself grace when I mess it up.  ;)

What about you?  Any thoughts about last year?  What about this year?  Do you have any resolutions for 2017?
     

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Monday, December 19, 2016

It's Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas

The weather here has been filled with cold, snow and ice.


Our home is decorated inside ...

and out ...


We bought food to prepare so we can have a nice family meal on Christmas day.


We've purchased a few Christmas presents.


We've watched some Christmas movies and listened to some Christmas music.


And I think we're pretty much ready for the big day.


Merry Christmas everyone!!!!!


We hope you and yours have a wonderful holiday!!!!!
Lots of Love,
Nash & Lilli